A problem, I think, with being in a different culture is not so much picking up the new culture, but learning to let go of one's own - especially when the two contradict each other. So coming from a church culture that tithes, one wants to tithe and then is distressed when expected to give at numerous fund-raising collections. We try to tithe AND give to collections. We need to let go of the tithing and give as the new culture gives. The same with time-keeping and commitment. I have to be in two places at once tomorrow. Somehow I must fit them in. According to my values I am going to let both parties down - but it is not my fault. Somehow I need to appropriate the values of those who set up the system. If I'm late that's ok. If I don't do the job fully well at least I showed willing.
Not so easy at all.