Thursday, April 02, 2009

Decisions

I suppose it is logical in hindsight, but it is interesting to see how my thinking has changed over the last few days. Showing how in some things, decisions should be made slowly!
I have a daughter in grade 11 (one year before matric). We didn't feel that it was fair to her to make her change schools for her grade 11 year and then again for her grade 12 year and that is why my family stayed in Johannesburg while I came down to Grahamstown for my one year Phase 1 stint. The idea was that we would be separated again next year and that when she was finished school my husband and I would be together again no matter what.
Now, after being apart from each other after ten weeks, my husband and I were saying 'no ways can we do this again next year'. Mostly because the separation is hard on the younger kids (10 and 12). It is so hard to find a way of getting that right that works for everyone. Eventually I thought that the best option would be for me to take a years leave of absence and just get my daughter through school. It made a lot of sense, but the few feelers I put out about that idea gave me the feeling that the Methodist Church would not really take kindly to it. And to be quite honest, I don't want to take a year out.
When I got back to my family last weekend, our thoughts started changing again and we started considering other options.
And then after a few days, all relationships restored and emotional tanks filled, we started saying well maybe we can do it next year. The probability is that I will be in Pietermaritzburg. That is 4 hours from home whereas Grahamstown is 12 hours. Seminary will have holidays. We can get see each other weekends . . . So maybe we stick with the original plan. Maybe my boys come with me. . .
Next week my family goes back to Joburg. I will see them again much sooner than 10 or 11 weeks, but I wonder how my thinking will change again.

3 comments:

Thomas Scarborough said...

Phew, no one can say life is dull for you. It could make a great book. Poisonwood Bible No. 2. ;-)

Steven Jones said...

4 hours from home? Joburg to Pietermaritzburg? Just HOW fast do YOU drive?!

:-)

Jenny Hillebrand said...

Hi Thomas - I haven't read The Poisonwood Bible, but I suspect that I won't find my life comparable!!
Steven - sh-h-h some of us are trying to encourage ourselves!